April Showers Bring... a Mess!
We all know the familiar rhyme, “April showers bring May flowers,” but April showers can also bring a lot more – big puddles, dirty shoes, wet clothes. April showers bring a big mess! As the days get longer and kids are chomping at the bit for summer to arrive, even more messes can arise! With more hours in the day, kids have much more opportunity to make choices that can have potentially messy consequences.
At WINGS we like to teach our kids a decision making technique called Avoid a Yes Mess. Having kids practice thinking though the choices they are making is a skill that can benefit them in the long run. As your child is faced with a choice, walk them through these three simple questions:
- Could anyone (including me) get hurt if I choose this?
- Could I get into any trouble if I get caught doing this?
- Can anything bad happen if I make this choice?
If they answer yes to one or more of the questions, then they are most likely making a choice that could lead to a negative consequence or a potential mess – a Yes Mess! If we help our children slow down and think through the potential consequences of their choices, then they are most likely going to make a better choice the first time. It is important to remind them that no matter what they decide to do, whatever happens as a result of their choice is on them. They have to be okay with the consequence and can’t blame it on anyone else.
Responsible decision-making is not easy and the more we can do to help our children brainstorm options and the possible consequences the less “mess” they’ll encounter in the future. Don’t let rainy April days ruin your spring—take some time this month to work with your child on decision-making and teach them how to Avoid a Yes Mess!