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The WINGS Creed makes it easier to help kids behave by capitalizing on teachable moments.

Using the Creed to Make the Most
of Teachable Moments

At WINGS, we do a lot of our teaching by using the words of our Creed because it makes it so easy for kids to understand the precepts of social and emotional education. But before we can help the kids put the Creed into action, we train our staff to go through this process themselves so they can tie it into scenarios from real life. Parents, teachers and siblings can also do this.

So, let's Proceed to the Creed! Take each line of the Creed and give some thought to a recent occasion where you have either been "living the Creed" – or not. You can write it down if that helps.

Examples:

I love and accept who I am on the inside and know my emotions are nothing to hide.

Not living:
The other night I came home and noticed the kitchen trash was overflowing. This is my husband’s job! I stomped over to the garbage can, tied it up, dragged it out the trash, and stomped upstairs while avoiding eye contact with my husband.

Living:
The other night I came home and noticed the kitchen trash was overflowing. I walked over to my husband and said, "It is very frustrating when the kitchen trash can is overflowing because it stinks. We agreed that taking out the trash is your job. Do you mind trying to empty it before it starts overflowing?"

Life's full of surprises that make me feel different ways. If I can control myself I’ll have much better days.

Not living:
I was planning to take off from work to go on a long weekend for a trip. So I asked my boss for the day off on Friday. She told me no because we had an important report due that day. I left the room and immediately went to my co-worker’s office to complain and badmouth my boss. As a result, I ended up staying an hour later to finish my work and was late to my son’s baseball game.

Living:
I was planning to take off from work to go on a long weekend for a trip. So I asked my boss for the day off on Friday. She told me no because we had an important report due that day. I felt my face get red. I went into my office, took some deep breaths and thought about another weekend that might work for my trip. I emailed a request for that day instead and finished my work up for the day.

I understand the choices I make should be what's best for me to do and what happens is on me and not any of you.

Not living:
The PTA President begged me to help bake cakes for the school fundraiser. I did not want to but gave in. That night as I baked the cakes, my daughter needed help studying for her math test. I raised my voice and said, "I’m too busy! I have to bake 5 cakes for YOUR fundraiser!” Please do it yourself!"

Living:
The PTA President begged me to help bake cakes for the school fundraiser. I did not want to because I was too busy. I told her, "I’m sorry. I really would love to help but my daughter always needs help studying for her math test on Thursdays. I’ll try to help another time." That night my daughter and I had a nice, quiet study session and she got an "A" on her test.

I understand others are unique. I want to learn more about everyone I meet. I want to step into their shoes and see what they are going through.

Not living:
A woman at the grocery store was in line behind me and had a jar of pickles, a candy bar and a gift bag. She asked if she could go in front of me. I really didn’t think she needed to be in a hurry, based on her odd supplies. So I politely said, "I'm sorry, I really need to get home to start cooking dinner."

Living:
A woman at the grocery store was in line behind me and had a jar of pickles, a candy bar and a gift bag. She asked me if she could go in front of me. I smiled and said, "That’s an interesting combination of groceries." She smiled and replied, “They’re for my nephew. These are his favorites things and I wanted to show him I love him. I’m trying to catch the bus in time to give them to him before he goes to bed." I said, "Dinner can wait. You go ahead of me. You need to go make a little boy's day!"

I am a friend. I support and trust. Working together is a must. Kind and caring I will be. I listen to you. You listen to me.

Not living:
My younger sister called to tell me she’s taking a semester off from college to work with a local artist. I immediately said, "That’s crazy! Take off one semester and you’ll never go back. You need a college degree!"

Living:
My younger sister called to tell me she was taking a semester off from college to work with a local artist. I asked why and listened to her reasons. Her interest in art has been growing, and this well-known artist offered to let her be his apprentice. I let her know that I supported her decision and asked her if she was willing to listen to my concern. I told her how it is hard to go back to school after leaving for a semester but it also sounds like a great opportunity. I told her I trusted she would make the best choice for herself.

Next month we’ll tell you how to Proceed to the Creed with real-life examples that work well with kids.

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The WINGS Creed

I soar with WINGS. Let me tell you why. I learn lots of skills that help me reach the sky.

I love and accept who I am on the inside and know my emotions are nothing to hide

Life's full of surprises that make me feel different ways. If I can control myself, I will have much better days.

I understand the choices I make should be what's best for me to do, and what happens is on me and not any of you.

I understand others are unique. I want to learn more about everyone I meet. I want to step into their shoes and see what they are going through.

I am a friend. I support and trust. Working together is a must.

Kind and caring I will be. I listen to you. You listen to me.

I soar with WINGS. I just told you why. All of these things are why I fly high.