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YES MESS

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One of our favorite lines of the WINGS Creed, recited daily at our program, reads "I understand the choices I make should be what's best for me to do." However, seeing the best course of action isn't always easy for kids! We use "YES MESS" to teach our kids the art of positive decision making. If they answer YES to any of the questions, they are in a YES MESS.

Help your child commit this checklist to memory:


  • Could anyone (including myself) get hurt if I choose this?
  • Could I get into trouble if I get caught doing this?
  • Can anything bad happen if I make this choice?

For example:

One of our WINGS kids may be faced with the invitation to play basketball with friends, but she is supposed to be watching her baby sister. She really wants to go outside and play, and her sister is content in her room, so she’s considering going outside for a bit and leaving her alone. First, she asks herself our questions:

  1. Could anyone (including myself) get hurt if I choose this? Yes, my sister could get hurt if she’s alone, and I could get hurt playing basketball.
  2. Could I get into trouble if I get caught doing this? Yes, my parents will be mad that I didn’t follow their rules. I could get punished.
  3. Can anything bad happen if I make this choice? Maybe, but I’m not quite sure.
Since our WINGS gal answered YES to some of these questions, she could be in a YES MESS if she followed the course of action she was considering. She knows she should brainstorm another choice that would be better for her to make in this situation. For example, a better choice would be to tell her friends she can’t play today, but she can reschedule for tomorrow when her mom will be home.

If kids answer NO to all three checklist questions, the choice they are considering is probably a good one to make. This is an important lesson to teach kids of all ages. Positive decision making is not only a vital component of the WINGS curriculum, it is an essential element of any social and emotional education.   


"All learning has an emotional base."

- Plato


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