The Name Game


Although it is easy to blame others when certain things happen, it's not fair or responsible. Speak with your kids and introduce the notion of "showing their ID" so they learn to take responsibility.

The appropriate way to show your ID is to say, "I" and then tell how you were a part of the situation.

Sarah does very well in a basketball game.

Instead of saying

Sarah shows her ID and says

"Thanks. It's no big deal."

"Thanks, I practiced really hard on my shooting over the past two weeks and it has paid off"

Marcus does poorly on his weekly spelling test.

Instead of saying

Marcus shows his ID and says

"It's not my fault. The teacher put really hard words on there."

"I played my Wii last night instead of studying for my test."

Once kids get the concept of showing their ID down, it is sure to save you energy and frustration! When a child starts blaming others, all you need to do is simply say, "Please stop blaming others and show your ID."

An important line of our WINGS Creed states, "The choices I make should be what's best for me to do and what happens is on me and not any of you." Teaching kids to show their ID is an important step in their emotional growth!  

"While we may not be able to control all that happens to us, we can control what happens inside us."

-Ben Franklin

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