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Self-Management

Skills like impulse control, executive function, stress-management, self-discipline

 

As we all settle into new routines – learning from home, working from home (thank you essential workers!), and spending endless hours together in shared spaces – we have a sneaking suspicion you’re experiencing a full range of emotions. We are, too! This is normal, healthy, and expected. So, what better time to intentionally practice – and grow – our social emotional skills?

We’ve put together a list of resources for you and your kids, broken down by competency and grade level. Below you will find a book to read with follow-up questions, discussion prompts for family mealtime, and a hands-on activity – all centered on self-management.

We hope that these social emotional resources find a place in your new routine and allow you and your family to have fun while checking-in with each other’s emotional health. #We’reAllInThisTogether


For Grades K-2


💡 book to read

 Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day! by Judith Viorst | Read-aloud version

Four Follow-up Questions:

  1. What surprises happened at breakfast for both Alexander and his brothers? What emotions did they feel?
  2. How did Alexander react to his friends Paul and Phillip Parker at school? What emotion do you think Alexander felt and what could he have done to relax?
  3. What surprise happened after school when Alexander’s mom picked him up? What emotion do you think Alexander really felt?
  4. How did Alexander react at the shoe store when they didn’t have his size in the color he wanted? What could he have done to calm down?

💡Table talk & dinner prompts

Use mealtime intentionally as a check-in time 

  • What is the last thing you were excited about?
  • What helps you calm down?
  • When have you had a hard time controlling yourself recently?

💡activity

Yay for Yoga

Goal: To practice resetting and relaxing through yoga
Supplies: Open space
Instructions:

  1. Guide your child through the following yoga poses, modeling each pose as a way to encourage their participation and understanding.
  2. Repeat this sequence several times.
  3. For more kid-friendly yoga tutorials click here.

Example Poses:

  • Seeds to Sunflowers
    • Instruct your child to crouch down while wrapping their arms around their bent legs.
    • Have them imagine they are slowly growing into a flower by slowly progressing into a standing position. 
    • Encourage your child to stand straight up on their tip-toes, arms completely outstretched up, face oriented to the sun and hold it for five seconds.
  • Upward Arm Stretch
    • Have your child lift their arms up, bend their elbows and clasp their hands behind their head.
    • Have your child push their elbows back. They should feel their shoulder muscles contracting and their chest expanding.
    • Now, have your child inhale, raise their arms up and clasp both hands together while holding their palms up.  Hold this for several seconds.
    • Exhale, release and return hands to back behind their head.
  • Lion
    • Have your child sit up straight with eyes closed, mouth closed, and hands clenched.
    • Tell your child to inhale and exhale forcefully through their mouth as they open their eyes wide as possible while at the same time opening their mouths and sticking their tongue out as far as possible.
    • Have your child inhale and return to closed eyes and closed mouth position.

For Grades 3-5


💡CLIp to watch

Secret Life of Pets | Clip here

Four Follow-up Questions:

  1. Did Chloe the cat practice self-control with the food in the fridge? Why or why not?
  2. Can you think of a time when you really wanted something but knew it wasn’t going to be good for you? What did you do?
  3. Did Mel the pug practice self-control when he saw the squirrels? Why or why not?
  4. Can you think of a time when it was hard to control what you said? What helps you remember to stay in control?

💡Table talk & dinner prompts

Use mealtime intentionally as a check-in time 

  • What does stress feel like to you?
  • When do you feel impatient and struggle with controlling yourself?
  • There are a lot of surprises happening right now in the world. Let’s make a list of the things we can control and a list of things that are out of our control.

💡 ACTIVITY

Blank Stare

Goal: To practice controlling emotions through a staring contest
Supplies: Pairs of participants
Instructions:

  1. Explain that on “go,” each participant must stare until either you or they blink, laugh, or look away.
  2. Keep practicing control using this activity with other people in the house. If possible, kids can FaceTime or Zoom another family member or friend to play.